Japanese chick bowing her head

“Never send a boy to do a mans job.” 

Some very dominant males don’t like the title “Master” because we have a different idea inside our minds of what a master is. Let me clear that up right now: The (very relevant) dictionary definitions are:

Nouns:

  1. A man who has people working for him, especially servants or slaves. (This is awesome in the context of role-play or a “scene”)
  2. A skilled practitioner of a particular art or activity.

Adjectives:

  1. having or showing very great skill or proficiency: (Hmm..skill comes up again…)
  2. main; principal (That’s us in the bedroom!)

Verbs:

  1. Acquire complete knowledge or skill in (a subject, technique, or art):
  2. Gain control of; overcome:

So skill plays a big part as do elements like being in charge and in control and being the Main or Principal (person in charge).
In the bedroom (or dungeon) environment it’s really important for us to embody these qualities.
To be a good Dominant or Master we need 2 things: Confidence and Competence (Skills). The hard part: to gain confidence we need experience and to gain experience we need confidence… a bit of a catch 22. We can solve this by developing skills and through COMPETENCE we can gain confidence.
(future blog post on skill coming soon)

So far it sounds like a lot of work and the truth is it is but being a Master is also a lot of fun. Dominance offers the master a plethora of amazing experiences (the submissive enjoys it too as she will gladly submit to a delightful yet severe spanking at any given opportunity).
What could be more fun that a gorgeous submissive laying face down with her helpless upturned sexy ass in the air, wriggling, just waiting for us to strike and inflict that awesome most-pleasurable pain! Other reasons why we love it:
The power play aspect, the joy of escaping into a fantasy world, having our partner dress up for us in whatever we want her to wear, the physical stimulation, sharing the deepest possible intimacy and trust with another human being, and tying her up and spanking that ass!

What about her?

Society is constantly putting pressure on women to succeed in a “Man’s world”, to take charge, to do instead of be, to be strong and bright, to constantly make decisions and tell their children/work underlings what to do.
Submission is a form of escapism for them and giving up all control is extremely therapeutic. This passive side of themselves cannot be expressed in the really real world and once awoken it becomes a real need not just a “want”. The bedroom (or dungeon) is the perfect place for her to openly and sincerely surrender her will to her man’s firm but fair rule.
We Dominants also have a need for connection and a lot of the time we just want to make her as happy as we are. We take pleasure not only in compelling our slave’s submission, but also in fulfilling her fantasies. She enjoys surrendering to her Master’s power and gratifying our desires and has participatory control in the situation: Her Master will give her a safe word to use in case of extreme discomfort but other than that the Master is obviously the one in charge.
She loves to be dominated because it feels good. she will experience erotic pleasure of an exceptionally intense and prolonged nature. t takes a woman a longer time [than a man] to get up to the level of arousal needed to orgasm so we use the deep muscle stimulation of a good spanking or whipping, teasing and tying, sensations of being simultaneously urged forward and held back, that complete loss of control, having her nipples pinched and tortured… This is very pleasurable, her whole body exposed to my whim, all of this promotes a psychological letting-go that enables her to completely forget her worries, becoming no more than a sexual toy for a powerful Master. She is bombarded with sensations – some painful, some pleasurable…This increases blood flow to “that area” and in order for a woman to have an orgasm there must be some lubrication down there too, also her clit must get erect through blood flow. Stimulation is the key to achieving pleasure so we build up the experience edging her towards that screaming point but she must stay the course. There is a moment before orgasm when many women give up, thinking nothing will happen. It’s a self-sabotaging mistake.

If the Master allows her to stay with the stimulation, the orgasm will come. The Master owns her orgasms.

KSDominant